Self love is self discipline.
Here is some food for thought.
I wanted to introduce you to a new idea in this crazy "self love/ self care" era:
An era where you are encouraged to constantly do the easier thing, in the name of health.
Sometimes self love looks like self discipline.
I think society is telling us that “listening to your body” and “self care” is to constantly do whatever you want. Sleep in when you said you’d work out, don’t meal prep because you’re tired, get the Chinese food... etc.
But I truly believe really loving yourself is doing whatever you NEED, sometimes regardless of what you want.
Self discipline has a negative connotation: it sounds like deprivation, rigidity, and structure. But in reality, it's taking care of you and taking control of your health.
If you are a mother, think about the way you respond when your child wants to stay up late, eat candy, and watch cartoons all day.
It's your job to take care of that little human and give them what is best for them, not necessarily whatever they want whenever they want it.
That’s what it means to take care of someone else, why is it different when we are taking care of us?
Self love means encouraging balance. If you say your priorities are to cook more at home and to nourish your body, then the most loving then you can do for you is to do the things it takes to align with those priorities! Taking care of you means taking care of your priorities.
To know and value yourself enough to take care of yourself, whatever that looks like.
One thing I am always telling my clients is this: "what is in your control?" Because really, that's all I care about.
I don't care about the social events or weekends at your in-laws, because you don't really have a say in your health there. I just care that when you have a say in your health, you use it to do what's best for you.
Self discipline is the act of acknowledging that there is much more in your control than you realize. And then it is ACTING ON IT.
In every season of your life, self care looks wildly different because your life looks wildly different.
What does it look like to take care of you NOW?
What does it look like to have enough self love to have self discipline?